July 26th, 2011

I’ve been engaged for three weeks. Three really fun, fantastic exciting weeks! I am still just wanting to hold onto every moment. What I’m not trying to do right now is plan my wedding. Instead I am holding off on making those moves and just enjoying the new title.
That being said the rest of the world rushed right into planning my wedding. In some ways it is lovely and flattering and in other ways it’s just too much.
If you’re newly engaged, planning your wedding or married I bet you are with me on some of those questions that people bombard you with moments after you make your announcement.
“So when’s the wedding?”
“Oh you must have everything planned since you do this for a living!!”
“How many carats is the ring?”
“I cannot wait to see you walk down the aisle.”
“Will your niece be in your bridal party?”
EEK.
Okay so here’s the etiquette. You really should not be asking how big anyone’s ring is. I have come up with some quips that put that in perspective pronto. They are not P.C. and I won’t actually say them unless I’m pushed. Let’s just summarize by saying that if you ask how big my ring is I should be able to ask your bra size. I know- B.A.D.- right?!?
The one thing that makes a bad comment worse is to point out someone else’s poor etiquette. That’s a no-no. So the better response is either:
“I’m actually not sure but isn’t it beautiful!”
White lie if you do know but better than a knee jerk response that you might regret later.
-OR-
“We aren’t making plans just yet. I am just so happy to be engaged right now!”
If you are pressed for an invitation into your wedding party or your wedding here is an option to dissuade “wedding crashers”:
“We are just not there yet.”
If you may want them there by your side you can of course add “I’ll keep you posted!”
*My next post will be about taking care of your sparkly left hand ring. This is a new area information for me so I consulted the Engagement Ring Pros!*
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